Personally theres only a point in encoruaging it if its a hobby you are gna use to spend time with them? if not why bother?

Before you decide, you should both see a doctor to see whether your knee jerking is hereditary or not. If it is, then Spurs aint for your son and you can spare him. That said, football is a game of highs and lows so if its as severe as yours, maybe you should discourage all forms of support. My FIL plays bowls, and he says that its a wonderful game, peaceful, almost emotionless, just pleasant in the company of like-minded folk. Since he stopped taking a keen interest in his team (Boro) and started bowls he's been a lot happier.

I would recommend lawn bowls for quite a few on here

Maybe buy the lad a violin so he can play it for you whilst the games?

You should be ashamed of yourself, cruelty to children
and all that !

I mean you could let him pick his own team (and just hope it’s not Arsenal or Chelsea) but if the whole family is already Spurs, I guess the decision is probably already made!

Besides he’s never seen us win anything so he’s not actually missing anything!

comment by H von H. (U16981)
posted 12 minutes ago
You should be ashamed of yourself, cruelty to children
and all that !
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Child line.

comment by Devonshirespur (U6316)
posted 42 minutes ago
Before you decide, you should both see a doctor to see whether your knee jerking is hereditary or not. If it is, then Spurs aint for your son and you can spare him. That said, football is a game of highs and lows so if its as severe as yours, maybe you should discourage all forms of support. My FIL plays bowls, and he says that its a wonderful game, peaceful, almost emotionless, just pleasant in the company of like-minded folk. Since he stopped taking a keen interest in his team (Boro) and started bowls he's been a lot happier.

I would recommend lawn bowls for quite a few on here
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Why is calling out an unacceptable performance “knee jerking” ?

comment by Automatic For The People (U21889)
posted 29 minutes ago
comment by Devonshirespur (U6316)
posted 42 minutes ago
Before you decide, you should both see a doctor to see whether your knee jerking is hereditary or not. If it is, then Spurs aint for your son and you can spare him. That said, football is a game of highs and lows so if its as severe as yours, maybe you should discourage all forms of support. My FIL plays bowls, and he says that its a wonderful game, peaceful, almost emotionless, just pleasant in the company of like-minded folk. Since he stopped taking a keen interest in his team (Boro) and started bowls he's been a lot happier.

I would recommend lawn bowls for quite a few on here
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Why is calling out an unacceptable performance “knee jerking” ?
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1. OP didnt say it was unacceptable.
2. Regardless we can all agree its unacceptable
3. OP is talking about encouraging his son not to support Spurs on the back of a loss to Brighton. From this i question why football fans support a club. Why did my FIL support Middlesbrough when they really have no history of wining anything, just going up and down the leagues. OP's basically asking "should my son be a glory hunter" because he seems to think that supporting a club where there are lows and highs is not what supporting a club is about. That is where i differ from him and that is why i have suggested that he considers something less stressful as a past time.

My son lost his shiiit, stomped out of the room slammed a load of doors and didnt reappear for about 2 hours. Football is emotion and you get the whole lot with most clubs and some go through life without seeing their team win anything.

Can you not take them along to watch the local team where it is more practical and realistic for them to follow a football team? It is actually much healthier for them than supporting a big TV team.

Why did 1000s of fans turn up to watch Brighton. They've never won shiiiit. Are they mental, surely watching your team is about winning stuff. end of.

For me you support a club that means something to you, for what ever reason is in your heart. Once committed then there's no escape.

comment by Devonshirespur (U6316)
posted 28 seconds ago
Why did 1000s of fans turn up to watch Brighton. They've never won shiiiit. Are they mental, surely watching your team is about winning stuff. end of.

For me you support a club that means something to you, for what ever reason is in your heart. Once committed then there's no escape.
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That’s fine, but we’re allowed to have expectations.

You obviously don’t.

comment by Devonshirespur (U6316)
posted 2 minutes ago
comment by Automatic For The People (U21889)
posted 29 minutes ago
comment by Devonshirespur (U6316)
posted 42 minutes ago
Before you decide, you should both see a doctor to see whether your knee jerking is hereditary or not. If it is, then Spurs aint for your son and you can spare him. That said, football is a game of highs and lows so if its as severe as yours, maybe you should discourage all forms of support. My FIL plays bowls, and he says that its a wonderful game, peaceful, almost emotionless, just pleasant in the company of like-minded folk. Since he stopped taking a keen interest in his team (Boro) and started bowls he's been a lot happier.

I would recommend lawn bowls for quite a few on here
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Why is calling out an unacceptable performance “knee jerking” ?
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1. OP didnt say it was unacceptable.
2. Regardless we can all agree its unacceptable
3. OP is talking about encouraging his son not to support Spurs on the back of a loss to Brighton. From this i question why football fans support a club. Why did my FIL support Middlesbrough when they really have no history of wining anything, just going up and down the leagues. OP's basically asking "should my son be a glory hunter" because he seems to think that supporting a club where there are lows and highs is not what supporting a club is about. That is where i differ from him and that is why i have suggested that he considers something less stressful as a past time.

My son lost his shiiit, stomped out of the room slammed a load of doors and didnt reappear for about 2 hours. Football is emotion and you get the whole lot with most clubs and some go through life without seeing their team win anything.
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Where have you been, this is not about one game, it's the last 20 years. It's the collapses by grown men again and again.

Being a Spurs supporter is a life sentence

Sounds like Spurs isn't for you, time to move on san

comment by Fabián Caballero (U1734)
posted 47 seconds ago
Can you not take them along to watch the local team where it is more practical and realistic for them to follow a football team? It is actually much healthier for them than supporting a big TV team.
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I would say that it is much healthier staying at home and watching the game on TV, who wants to stand out in a freezing cold wind/pouring rain/ get mud soaked trousers, and watch the local hoofers !

comment by Dave&Danny dynamic (U4428)
posted 8 minutes ago
Sounds like Spurs isn't for you, time to move on san
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As you know, moving on is not an option.

comment by Devonshirespur (U6316)
posted 1 hour, 38 minutes ago
Before you decide, you should both see a doctor to see whether your knee jerking is hereditary or not. If it is, then Spurs aint for your son and you can spare him. That said, football is a game of highs and lows so if its as severe as yours, maybe you should discourage all forms of support. My FIL plays bowls, and he says that its a wonderful game, peaceful, almost emotionless, just pleasant in the company of like-minded folk. Since he stopped taking a keen interest in his team (Boro) and started bowls he's been a lot happier.

I would recommend lawn bowls for quite a few on here
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Tbf it is a cracking game.

Spurs fack me off as much as anyone but when my boy grows up he'll have no option but to be a spurs fan.

However, I will be taking him to my local non league club first and encourage him that's the best way to follow a team.

I think every dad should just encourage the flavour of the moment team that wins all the trophies. Encourage them to change teams as soon as another team starts to win trophies.

I think that is how supporting a football team works.

Maybe you should focus on teaching your kid a bit of perspective so he can grow up knowing football really isn't worth getting upset over

It's not my Son

My kids already have this sentence hanging over them.

comment by Not So Bored As Fudge (U21998)
posted 4 minutes ago
My kids already have this sentence hanging over them.
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My son is 12 and I made it very clear from an early age that supporting any other team wasn't an option.

It's a good life lesson as it teaches you how to deal with continuous disappointment.

As he's nearly a teenager and will soon want to take girls up to his room I'm going to have to make it clear that no Arsenal or Chelsea fans are welcome in my house.

comment by Not So Bored As Fudge (U21998)
posted 42 minutes ago
It's not my Son
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Is that what you've told the wife

It's not my son !...just pretend you don't know him then !