Each to their own. I was never hit growing up.
I will never lay a hand on my kid.
I got a smack here and there as a kid
Just a stare or a few firm words seems to work. Not sure I want my kids to be scared of me, respect is more than enough.
I was a polite, kind, well-behaved child so never got any smacks, but saw my brothers get a few hard beatings. It was of the era, tbf.
I said I would but never have
it's such a sensitive subject. I was a few times as a kid but only when I did something properly dangerous or extreme and still think (know) I deserved it now.
It's like anything, in moderation and only in certain circumstances I don't think it's wrong but some would abuse (pun not intended) and excuse hitting when it's actual abuse and very wrong.
For example, if I saw some kid push another kid into traffic and his mum screamed at him and slapped him hard I would honestly call that good parenting.
No way I'd hit my kid. Just don't need to. I've got a pretty low tolerance level (hard to believe, I know) and used to find myself shouting quite often at my daughter. I quickly realised this didn't work, so know I calmly explain why what she does is wrong, and if that fails, then it's deprivation time. Kids hate having things taken off them, or being told they're not going somewhere they were looking forward to
Term - reason Put this up, was I am finding that shouting, or a clip round the ear does very little.
They are currently banned from watching TV for 3 days. Working wonders
Me and my brothers got battered by our step dad growing up. Stuff that would now be considered child abuse.
The result? We think he's a and filled him in when we were of age.
Like attracts like. Just talk to them
Robbing - I think there is difference though. What you went through sounds like abuse.
I was referring to discipline.
That is my definition anyway...
I got slapped, and sometimes a few times when I was young...I wouldn't change my upbringing in the slightest and love my parents dearly.
I got sore bum cheeks after messing with a power saw or some other tool when I was 10 or 11. I was told never to go near it but thought it still a good idea.
Never did it again and don't hold anything against my parents for it, I think they did the right thing.
Can't believe so many of you have children
We're emulating Sterling.
We never wanted kids, it's just a strange form of hero worship.
I'd crack my kids if they were naughty enough,but I've been lucky so far and I haven't needed too,saying that,my 2 year old is a real handful. I wouldn't lay finger on her until she knew why she was being punished. If you're going to smack your child it should be as a punishment not just because you're angry.
I was a little shït as a kid,and got plenty of hidings. Normally off me mum,but if I was really bad,my old man would leather me. It didn't do me any harm,except for this nervous twitch.
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Can't believe so many of you have children
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Got a girl aged 9, boy aged 6.
Never had to hit either of them, because we have bought them up properly.
I explain what is wrong/unacceptable about their behaviour If they moderate it accordingly, all is fine.
If they don't it's either ten minutes on the stairs with nothing to do but think about why they are being made to sit there, and then when time is up, a "chat" to make sure they understand.
Either that or ban whatever their favourite thing of the moment is.
Never do idle threats.
If they are arguing over a game on the x-box for instance and have been warned that I will turn it off if they carry on, then that is exactly what I will do. No shouting, nothing. get up, turn it off (no allowing them to save game or anything), sit back down. Twice that has happened, I would be surprised if I have to do it anymore.
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Can't believe so many of you have children
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comment by Galvation lies within (U10415)
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Nowadays the only punishment needed is (as terminator says) deprivation of phones, internet, wi-fi....
If they can't be online, they're nowhere.
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Wouldn't work for me, they don't have phones and the internet is a learning tool so, the older one especially, would be happy to be deprived.
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I think someone said it already, I want my daughter to respect me, not fear me.....
I got smashed by my birth father as a two year old, to the extent that I got fostered. I mean, what kind of 'man' would consider that acceptable???? I've been with that foster family ever since, so all good, and my tough guy birth father keeled over and died 50 years, so got what he deserved That's my ultimate reason why I think kids shouldn't be hit
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Works more with teenagers tbf
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Or kids not looked in the cellar with poor reception and no internet coverage #Fritzlschoolofparenting
My kids will be taller than me by about age 13 so I highly doubt I'll ever be dishing out corporal punishment!!
Got a 2 yr old and a 4 yr old, both boys.
Never hit them and never plan to.
I get angry with them, shout, get physical in terms of dragging them to the naughty step etc if needed, but have never felt (and I think history has proved this) that physical violence is a good way of disciplining children (or adults).
All it is teaching them is that using violence is acceptable when you don't get your own way.
Violence breeds violence.
My kids are generally good kids so far. One is quite timid so is not naturally aggressive anyway. If I hit him I think he would just be really scared of me, and what is good about that?
The younger one has less fear factor. He would probably see it as a challenge to wind dad up if I hit him.
My wife was hit as a kid with various things and has major psychological issues over certain things as a direct result. Luckily she recognises that and would divorce me if I ever hit either of them.
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posted on 2/4/15
Each to their own. I was never hit growing up.
posted on 2/4/15
I will never lay a hand on my kid.
posted on 2/4/15
I got a smack here and there as a kid
posted on 2/4/15
Just a stare or a few firm words seems to work. Not sure I want my kids to be scared of me, respect is more than enough.
I was a polite, kind, well-behaved child so never got any smacks, but saw my brothers get a few hard beatings. It was of the era, tbf.
posted on 2/4/15
I said I would but never have
it's such a sensitive subject. I was a few times as a kid but only when I did something properly dangerous or extreme and still think (know) I deserved it now.
It's like anything, in moderation and only in certain circumstances I don't think it's wrong but some would abuse (pun not intended) and excuse hitting when it's actual abuse and very wrong.
For example, if I saw some kid push another kid into traffic and his mum screamed at him and slapped him hard I would honestly call that good parenting.
posted on 2/4/15
No way I'd hit my kid. Just don't need to. I've got a pretty low tolerance level (hard to believe, I know) and used to find myself shouting quite often at my daughter. I quickly realised this didn't work, so know I calmly explain why what she does is wrong, and if that fails, then it's deprivation time. Kids hate having things taken off them, or being told they're not going somewhere they were looking forward to
posted on 2/4/15
Term - reason Put this up, was I am finding that shouting, or a clip round the ear does very little.
They are currently banned from watching TV for 3 days. Working wonders
posted on 2/4/15
Me and my brothers got battered by our step dad growing up. Stuff that would now be considered child abuse.
The result? We think he's a and filled him in when we were of age.
Like attracts like. Just talk to them
posted on 2/4/15
Robbing - I think there is difference though. What you went through sounds like abuse.
I was referring to discipline.
That is my definition anyway...
I got slapped, and sometimes a few times when I was young...I wouldn't change my upbringing in the slightest and love my parents dearly.
posted on 2/4/15
I got sore bum cheeks after messing with a power saw or some other tool when I was 10 or 11. I was told never to go near it but thought it still a good idea.
Never did it again and don't hold anything against my parents for it, I think they did the right thing.
posted on 2/4/15
Can't believe so many of you have children
posted on 2/4/15
We're emulating Sterling.
We never wanted kids, it's just a strange form of hero worship.
posted on 2/4/15
I'd crack my kids if they were naughty enough,but I've been lucky so far and I haven't needed too,saying that,my 2 year old is a real handful. I wouldn't lay finger on her until she knew why she was being punished. If you're going to smack your child it should be as a punishment not just because you're angry.
I was a little shït as a kid,and got plenty of hidings. Normally off me mum,but if I was really bad,my old man would leather me. It didn't do me any harm,except for this nervous twitch.
posted on 2/4/15
comment by Lubo - The New Leeds United Manager - I won the FA Cup as Leeds on FM (U14008)
posted 40 seconds ago
Can't believe so many of you have children
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posted on 2/4/15
Got a girl aged 9, boy aged 6.
Never had to hit either of them, because we have bought them up properly.
I explain what is wrong/unacceptable about their behaviour If they moderate it accordingly, all is fine.
If they don't it's either ten minutes on the stairs with nothing to do but think about why they are being made to sit there, and then when time is up, a "chat" to make sure they understand.
Either that or ban whatever their favourite thing of the moment is.
Never do idle threats.
If they are arguing over a game on the x-box for instance and have been warned that I will turn it off if they carry on, then that is exactly what I will do. No shouting, nothing. get up, turn it off (no allowing them to save game or anything), sit back down. Twice that has happened, I would be surprised if I have to do it anymore.
posted on 2/4/15
comment by Lefty - The Troll Hunter (U17934)
posted 9 minutes ago
comment by Lubo - The New Leeds United Manager - I won the FA Cup as Leeds on FM (U14008)
posted 40 seconds ago
Can't believe so many of you have children
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Our Soldiers march
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More surprised they have somewhere to march to
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comment by Galvation lies within (U10415)
posted 59 seconds ago
Nowadays the only punishment needed is (as terminator says) deprivation of phones, internet, wi-fi....
If they can't be online, they're nowhere.
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Wouldn't work for me, they don't have phones and the internet is a learning tool so, the older one especially, would be happy to be deprived.
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posted on 2/4/15
I think someone said it already, I want my daughter to respect me, not fear me.....
I got smashed by my birth father as a two year old, to the extent that I got fostered. I mean, what kind of 'man' would consider that acceptable???? I've been with that foster family ever since, so all good, and my tough guy birth father keeled over and died 50 years, so got what he deserved That's my ultimate reason why I think kids shouldn't be hit
posted on 2/4/15
comment by Galvation lies within (U10415)
posted 25 seconds ago
Works more with teenagers tbf
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Or kids not looked in the cellar with poor reception and no internet coverage #Fritzlschoolofparenting
posted on 2/4/15
My kids will be taller than me by about age 13 so I highly doubt I'll ever be dishing out corporal punishment!!
posted on 2/4/15
Got a 2 yr old and a 4 yr old, both boys.
Never hit them and never plan to.
I get angry with them, shout, get physical in terms of dragging them to the naughty step etc if needed, but have never felt (and I think history has proved this) that physical violence is a good way of disciplining children (or adults).
All it is teaching them is that using violence is acceptable when you don't get your own way.
Violence breeds violence.
My kids are generally good kids so far. One is quite timid so is not naturally aggressive anyway. If I hit him I think he would just be really scared of me, and what is good about that?
The younger one has less fear factor. He would probably see it as a challenge to wind dad up if I hit him.
My wife was hit as a kid with various things and has major psychological issues over certain things as a direct result. Luckily she recognises that and would divorce me if I ever hit either of them.
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