Congrats grated!
I’ve got three kids, I was quite young when I had my first. It got any recommendations on books as my eldest is sixteen now so most we had are probably out of print now!
The one thing I’d say is you can easily overload yourself with advice, not just from books but from other people, but there’s no one right way with any of it and don’t underestimate just how much comes naturally. You and your mrs will very quickly work out what your own routine is and way of doing things.
Really savour those early years too and spend as much time with your child as possible. I didn’t at times as I was only just starting my career and working too hard, they go by so quickly though.
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Going back to books though, this might of interest.
Managing My Life: My Autobiography
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I’m sure your life is very intersting bayern, but no.
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I might come across as a bit of a t!t on this article, but I hate the so often trotted out boll ak$ about parenting being hard work. It’s like anything else in life, do the fundamentals, and the test follows.
I stand by my comment that it is not “hard work”. Working in a coal mine, putting out fires in oil fields is hard work.
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Actually tend to agree somewhat. I’m in the middle, it’s not super hard, and it’s not easy either, but mothers that don’t work expecting medals, sorry no, single mothers, perhaps. (sorry to go culer) Agreed on coal mining, that indeed is bloody hard work.
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I saw the "etc" but seeing as the homework part was such a poor example of your parenting skills, I assumed that the etc was even worse than that.
And you act like enjoying it and finding it hard work cannot go together. Which again is really weird. I find getting up at 5:30, having 3 school drop offs at 3 different schools before 8:20, being home for meetings from 9 pretty much solidly until school pick up time at 3, 3:10, 3:20, back for more work until 5, cooking dinner and then working with them on homework, bathing and bedtime at 7-8:30 (and that's on days without football and cricket training for the oldest) for the 3 of them pretty hard work at times. It's really weird that you'd try to dismiss that and boil it down to clichés like love, food on the table and essentials.
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Jesus, you sound like a martyr. You make it sound like you do everything yourself (kudos if you are a single parent by the way).
The things that I list are the fundamentals of parenting. Extracurricular activities etc play a part, but without the basics of food, clothing, love what good are they?
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My wife works 36 hours a week across 3 days in a senior manager position in the NHS, so for 3 days, I essentially am for those 3 days but I'm not complaining. I am saying that your comment regarding parenting not being difficult is pompous and ridiculous.
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Looks like you are complaining to me.
I also have a wife that works shifts for the NHS, and I too have taken care of three children in her absence. I get on with it and don’t find it hard to do.
Jesus, there are so many things harder in life. I stand by my comment that a lot if it is hyperbole about how hard it is. It’s called life and I’m loving (almost) every minute of it.
If you knew me as a poster (which I don’t expect you to, seeing as this is the first time I remember us conversing) pompous I am not.
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Parenting can be very difficult at times, be it money, school, emotional issues. Mine are 11 and play Football six times a week between them. That, school work and technology time is hard to juggle.
Wouldn't swap it though!
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The sleep deprivation really is something else isn’t it?
People who don’t have children simply cannot comprehend how it feels.
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I found it took about a month to adapt to the constant tiredness. These days I am buzzing off my tiiits if I get 6 hours sleep and feel normal if I get 4/5 hours.
The bigger issue with it is that I crave diabetes inducing food and have to be incredibly strict otherwise I would be even more of a bloated mess than I currently am
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Yeah, I really notice that I crave garbage food when I get no sleep.
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I saw the "etc" but seeing as the homework part was such a poor example of your parenting skills, I assumed that the etc was even worse than that.
And you act like enjoying it and finding it hard work cannot go together. Which again is really weird. I find getting up at 5:30, having 3 school drop offs at 3 different schools before 8:20, being home for meetings from 9 pretty much solidly until school pick up time at 3, 3:10, 3:20, back for more work until 5, cooking dinner and then working with them on homework, bathing and bedtime at 7-8:30 (and that's on days without football and cricket training for the oldest) for the 3 of them pretty hard work at times. It's really weird that you'd try to dismiss that and boil it down to clichés like love, food on the table and essentials.
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Jesus, you sound like a martyr. You make it sound like you do everything yourself (kudos if you are a single parent by the way).
The things that I list are the fundamentals of parenting. Extracurricular activities etc play a part, but without the basics of food, clothing, love what good are they?
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My wife works 36 hours a week across 3 days in a senior manager position in the NHS, so for 3 days, I essentially am for those 3 days but I'm not complaining. I am saying that your comment regarding parenting not being difficult is pompous and ridiculous.
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Looks like you are complaining to me.
I also have a wife that works shifts for the NHS, and I too have taken care of three children in her absence. I get on with it and don’t find it hard to do.
Jesus, there are so many things harder in life. I stand by my comment that a lot if it is hyperbole about how hard it is. It’s called life and I’m loving (almost) every minute of it.
If you knew me as a poster (which I don’t expect you to, seeing as this is the first time I remember us conversing) pompous I am not.
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How is that complaining ffs? And I love this whole "if other people have it worse then you can't complain" mentality.
And you're loving life? Cool. Nobody asked nor cares and it has zero impact on the discussion of whether parenting is easy. If you're finding it easy. You've definitely not done it right imo.
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Regarding other people having worse than you so you can’t complain statement, nothing I have said has in any way alluded to that. Jesus, I complain daily about the most pointless things. It’s human nature.
And I stand by my thought that if you find it hard, you have not got the basics right, or you have not got a good routine going.
Maybe you have put too much emphasis on you career in your early life. A mistake (again, just my opinion) that many parents make. Understandable, because people want to provide for their children. Maybe you just haven’t got the balance right. Not a criticism by the way.
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Parenting can be very difficult at times, be it money, school, emotional issues. Mine are 11 and play Football six times a week between them. That, school work and technology time is hard to juggle.
Wouldn't swap it though!
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Technology time: that’s a good one. As long as humanly possible, do not buy your kid a tablet and certainly do not let them watch youtube. It’s like crack.
A particularly low grade, truly awful crack. But crack. That would be a top3 tip for anyone with a young kid.
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Parenting can be very difficult at times, be it money, school, emotional issues. Mine are 11 and play Football six times a week between them. That, school work and technology time is hard to juggle.
Wouldn't swap it though!
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Technology time: that’s a good one. As long as humanly possible, do not buy your kid a tablet and certainly do not let them watch youtube. It’s like crack.
A particularly low grade, truly awful crack. But crack. That would be a top3 tip for anyone with a young kid.
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Yeah we limit it but it is a drug. Never had crack so can't compare
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I saw the "etc" but seeing as the homework part was such a poor example of your parenting skills, I assumed that the etc was even worse than that.
And you act like enjoying it and finding it hard work cannot go together. Which again is really weird. I find getting up at 5:30, having 3 school drop offs at 3 different schools before 8:20, being home for meetings from 9 pretty much solidly until school pick up time at 3, 3:10, 3:20, back for more work until 5, cooking dinner and then working with them on homework, bathing and bedtime at 7-8:30 (and that's on days without football and cricket training for the oldest) for the 3 of them pretty hard work at times. It's really weird that you'd try to dismiss that and boil it down to clichés like love, food on the table and essentials.
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Jesus, you sound like a martyr. You make it sound like you do everything yourself (kudos if you are a single parent by the way).
The things that I list are the fundamentals of parenting. Extracurricular activities etc play a part, but without the basics of food, clothing, love what good are they?
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My wife works 36 hours a week across 3 days in a senior manager position in the NHS, so for 3 days, I essentially am for those 3 days but I'm not complaining. I am saying that your comment regarding parenting not being difficult is pompous and ridiculous.
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Looks like you are complaining to me.
I also have a wife that works shifts for the NHS, and I too have taken care of three children in her absence. I get on with it and don’t find it hard to do.
Jesus, there are so many things harder in life. I stand by my comment that a lot if it is hyperbole about how hard it is. It’s called life and I’m loving (almost) every minute of it.
If you knew me as a poster (which I don’t expect you to, seeing as this is the first time I remember us conversing) pompous I am not.
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How is that complaining ffs? And I love this whole "if other people have it worse then you can't complain" mentality.
And you're loving life? Cool. Nobody asked nor cares and it has zero impact on the discussion of whether parenting is easy. If you're finding it easy. You've definitely not done it right imo.
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Regarding other people having worse than you so you can’t complain statement, nothing I have said has in any way alluded to that. Jesus, I complain daily about the most pointless things. It’s human nature.
And I stand by my thought that if you find it hard, you have not got the basics right, or you have not got a good routine going.
Maybe you have put too much emphasis on you career in your early life. A mistake (again, just my opinion) that many parents make. Understandable, because people want to provide for their children. Maybe you just haven’t got the balance right. Not a criticism by the way.
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But you're not pompous?
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I’d like to think not. I certainly don’t mean to come over that way.
I’m just offering my opinion, and you disagree with it.
No big deal. I stand by my opinion though, and my career solidifies my beliefs.
I suppose we can leave it there, unless you want to argue for arguments sake?
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Same for me OP, first on the way , got the news a fortnight ago. I had suggested the idea of trying a few months ago but she seemed less keen with her work. She secretely came off the pill and surprised me with the news. Slightly annoyed but delighted at the same time
May arrival if all goes to plan. Nervous but excited! Just going to make the most of the next few months before my freetime disappears forever.
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I saw the "etc" but seeing as the homework part was such a poor example of your parenting skills, I assumed that the etc was even worse than that.
And you act like enjoying it and finding it hard work cannot go together. Which again is really weird. I find getting up at 5:30, having 3 school drop offs at 3 different schools before 8:20, being home for meetings from 9 pretty much solidly until school pick up time at 3, 3:10, 3:20, back for more work until 5, cooking dinner and then working with them on homework, bathing and bedtime at 7-8:30 (and that's on days without football and cricket training for the oldest) for the 3 of them pretty hard work at times. It's really weird that you'd try to dismiss that and boil it down to clichés like love, food on the table and essentials.
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Jesus, you sound like a martyr. You make it sound like you do everything yourself (kudos if you are a single parent by the way).
The things that I list are the fundamentals of parenting. Extracurricular activities etc play a part, but without the basics of food, clothing, love what good are they?
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My wife works 36 hours a week across 3 days in a senior manager position in the NHS, so for 3 days, I essentially am for those 3 days but I'm not complaining. I am saying that your comment regarding parenting not being difficult is pompous and ridiculous.
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Looks like you are complaining to me.
I also have a wife that works shifts for the NHS, and I too have taken care of three children in her absence. I get on with it and don’t find it hard to do.
Jesus, there are so many things harder in life. I stand by my comment that a lot if it is hyperbole about how hard it is. It’s called life and I’m loving (almost) every minute of it.
If you knew me as a poster (which I don’t expect you to, seeing as this is the first time I remember us conversing) pompous I am not.
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How is that complaining ffs? And I love this whole "if other people have it worse then you can't complain" mentality.
And you're loving life? Cool. Nobody asked nor cares and it has zero impact on the discussion of whether parenting is easy. If you're finding it easy. You've definitely not done it right imo.
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Regarding other people having worse than you so you can’t complain statement, nothing I have said has in any way alluded to that. Jesus, I complain daily about the most pointless things. It’s human nature.
And I stand by my thought that if you find it hard, you have not got the basics right, or you have not got a good routine going.
Maybe you have put too much emphasis on you career in your early life. A mistake (again, just my opinion) that many parents make. Understandable, because people want to provide for their children. Maybe you just haven’t got the balance right. Not a criticism by the way.
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But you're not pompous?
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I’d like to think not. I certainly don’t mean to come over that way.
I’m just offering my opinion, and you disagree with it.
No big deal. I stand by my opinion though, and my career solidifies my beliefs.
I suppose we can leave it there, unless you want to argue for arguments sake?
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Absolutely not. I come away from here staggered but it is what it is.
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Staggered by my belief? Ok. See you on the next debate if we cross paths again.
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Same for me OP, first on the way , got the news a fortnight ago. I had suggested the idea of trying a few months ago but she seemed less keen with her work. She secretely came off the pill and surprised me with the news. Slightly annoyed but delighted at the same time
May arrival if all goes to plan. Nervous but excited! Just going to make the most of the next few months before my freetime disappears forever.
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Will you be changing your name to suit? Natal?
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Same for me OP, first on the way , got the news a fortnight ago. I had suggested the idea of trying a few months ago but she seemed less keen with her work. She secretely came off the pill and surprised me with the news. Slightly annoyed but delighted at the same time
May arrival if all goes to plan. Nervous but excited! Just going to make the most of the next few months before my freetime disappears forever.
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Will you be changing your name to suit? Natal?
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not bad
Can I just ask that any of you fathers out there just stop posting 'real dads blah blah blah' crap on facebook for years after being ditched by the missus?
Ta in advance
No surprise teachers wanting parents to take an interest in homework.
So the cants have an easier life and can spend more time planning their next strike.
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No surprise teachers wanting parents to take an interest in homework.
So the cants have an easier life and can spend more time planning their next strike.
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You think teachers strike often then? You know the reasons why they strike?
You think teachers shouldn’t give homework (it actually means more work for teachers)?
You sound like an ill informed idiot.
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No surprise teachers wanting parents to take an interest in homework.
So the cants have an easier life and can spend more time planning their next strike.
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You think teachers strike often then? You know the reasons why they strike?
You think teachers shouldn’t give homework (it actually means more work for teachers)?
You sound like an ill informed idiot.
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Still bitter about not having a real job too,
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No surprise teachers wanting parents to take an interest in homework.
So the cants have an easier life and can spend more time planning their next strike.
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You think teachers strike often then? You know the reasons why they strike?
You think teachers shouldn’t give homework (it actually means more work for teachers)?
You sound like an ill informed idiot.
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Still bitter about not having a real job too,
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Teaching is not a real job? Ok then.
Oh, and I’m not a teacher by the way. I said I worked in education.
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Congrats grated!
I’ve got three kids, I was quite young when I had my first. It got any recommendations on books as my eldest is sixteen now so most we had are probably out of print now!
The one thing I’d say is you can easily overload yourself with advice, not just from books but from other people, but there’s no one right way with any of it and don’t underestimate just how much comes naturally. You and your mrs will very quickly work out what your own routine is and way of doing things.
Really savour those early years too and spend as much time with your child as possible. I didn’t at times as I was only just starting my career and working too hard, they go by so quickly though.
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Going back to books though, this might of interest.
Managing My Life: My Autobiography
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I’m sure your life is very intersting bayern, but no.
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Stick it in google, then you might appreciate it.
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https://www.waterstones.com/book/Managing My Life: My Autobiography-Parenting-is-easy-only-mortals-find-it-hard-the-useless-cants-by-Babyen/4774-4678
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I might come across as a bit of a t!t on this article, but I hate the so often trotted out boll ak$ about parenting being hard work. It’s like anything else in life, do the fundamentals, and the test follows.
I stand by my comment that it is not “hard work”. Working in a coal mine, putting out fires in oil fields is hard work.
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Actually tend to agree somewhat. I’m in the middle, it’s not super hard, and it’s not easy either, but mothers that don’t work expecting medals, sorry no, single mothers, perhaps. (sorry to go culer) Agreed on coal mining, that indeed is bloody hard work.
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I saw the "etc" but seeing as the homework part was such a poor example of your parenting skills, I assumed that the etc was even worse than that.
And you act like enjoying it and finding it hard work cannot go together. Which again is really weird. I find getting up at 5:30, having 3 school drop offs at 3 different schools before 8:20, being home for meetings from 9 pretty much solidly until school pick up time at 3, 3:10, 3:20, back for more work until 5, cooking dinner and then working with them on homework, bathing and bedtime at 7-8:30 (and that's on days without football and cricket training for the oldest) for the 3 of them pretty hard work at times. It's really weird that you'd try to dismiss that and boil it down to clichés like love, food on the table and essentials.
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Jesus, you sound like a martyr. You make it sound like you do everything yourself (kudos if you are a single parent by the way).
The things that I list are the fundamentals of parenting. Extracurricular activities etc play a part, but without the basics of food, clothing, love what good are they?
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My wife works 36 hours a week across 3 days in a senior manager position in the NHS, so for 3 days, I essentially am for those 3 days but I'm not complaining. I am saying that your comment regarding parenting not being difficult is pompous and ridiculous.
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Looks like you are complaining to me.
I also have a wife that works shifts for the NHS, and I too have taken care of three children in her absence. I get on with it and don’t find it hard to do.
Jesus, there are so many things harder in life. I stand by my comment that a lot if it is hyperbole about how hard it is. It’s called life and I’m loving (almost) every minute of it.
If you knew me as a poster (which I don’t expect you to, seeing as this is the first time I remember us conversing) pompous I am not.
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Parenting can be very difficult at times, be it money, school, emotional issues. Mine are 11 and play Football six times a week between them. That, school work and technology time is hard to juggle.
Wouldn't swap it though!
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The sleep deprivation really is something else isn’t it?
People who don’t have children simply cannot comprehend how it feels.
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I found it took about a month to adapt to the constant tiredness. These days I am buzzing off my tiiits if I get 6 hours sleep and feel normal if I get 4/5 hours.
The bigger issue with it is that I crave diabetes inducing food and have to be incredibly strict otherwise I would be even more of a bloated mess than I currently am
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Yeah, I really notice that I crave garbage food when I get no sleep.
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I saw the "etc" but seeing as the homework part was such a poor example of your parenting skills, I assumed that the etc was even worse than that.
And you act like enjoying it and finding it hard work cannot go together. Which again is really weird. I find getting up at 5:30, having 3 school drop offs at 3 different schools before 8:20, being home for meetings from 9 pretty much solidly until school pick up time at 3, 3:10, 3:20, back for more work until 5, cooking dinner and then working with them on homework, bathing and bedtime at 7-8:30 (and that's on days without football and cricket training for the oldest) for the 3 of them pretty hard work at times. It's really weird that you'd try to dismiss that and boil it down to clichés like love, food on the table and essentials.
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Jesus, you sound like a martyr. You make it sound like you do everything yourself (kudos if you are a single parent by the way).
The things that I list are the fundamentals of parenting. Extracurricular activities etc play a part, but without the basics of food, clothing, love what good are they?
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My wife works 36 hours a week across 3 days in a senior manager position in the NHS, so for 3 days, I essentially am for those 3 days but I'm not complaining. I am saying that your comment regarding parenting not being difficult is pompous and ridiculous.
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Looks like you are complaining to me.
I also have a wife that works shifts for the NHS, and I too have taken care of three children in her absence. I get on with it and don’t find it hard to do.
Jesus, there are so many things harder in life. I stand by my comment that a lot if it is hyperbole about how hard it is. It’s called life and I’m loving (almost) every minute of it.
If you knew me as a poster (which I don’t expect you to, seeing as this is the first time I remember us conversing) pompous I am not.
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How is that complaining ffs? And I love this whole "if other people have it worse then you can't complain" mentality.
And you're loving life? Cool. Nobody asked nor cares and it has zero impact on the discussion of whether parenting is easy. If you're finding it easy. You've definitely not done it right imo.
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Regarding other people having worse than you so you can’t complain statement, nothing I have said has in any way alluded to that. Jesus, I complain daily about the most pointless things. It’s human nature.
And I stand by my thought that if you find it hard, you have not got the basics right, or you have not got a good routine going.
Maybe you have put too much emphasis on you career in your early life. A mistake (again, just my opinion) that many parents make. Understandable, because people want to provide for their children. Maybe you just haven’t got the balance right. Not a criticism by the way.
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comment by Barefoot (U19770)
posted 8 seconds ago
Parenting can be very difficult at times, be it money, school, emotional issues. Mine are 11 and play Football six times a week between them. That, school work and technology time is hard to juggle.
Wouldn't swap it though!
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Technology time: that’s a good one. As long as humanly possible, do not buy your kid a tablet and certainly do not let them watch youtube. It’s like crack.
A particularly low grade, truly awful crack. But crack. That would be a top3 tip for anyone with a young kid.
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comment by Barefoot (U19770)
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Parenting can be very difficult at times, be it money, school, emotional issues. Mine are 11 and play Football six times a week between them. That, school work and technology time is hard to juggle.
Wouldn't swap it though!
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Technology time: that’s a good one. As long as humanly possible, do not buy your kid a tablet and certainly do not let them watch youtube. It’s like crack.
A particularly low grade, truly awful crack. But crack. That would be a top3 tip for anyone with a young kid.
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Yeah we limit it but it is a drug. Never had crack so can't compare
posted on 8/10/21
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I saw the "etc" but seeing as the homework part was such a poor example of your parenting skills, I assumed that the etc was even worse than that.
And you act like enjoying it and finding it hard work cannot go together. Which again is really weird. I find getting up at 5:30, having 3 school drop offs at 3 different schools before 8:20, being home for meetings from 9 pretty much solidly until school pick up time at 3, 3:10, 3:20, back for more work until 5, cooking dinner and then working with them on homework, bathing and bedtime at 7-8:30 (and that's on days without football and cricket training for the oldest) for the 3 of them pretty hard work at times. It's really weird that you'd try to dismiss that and boil it down to clichés like love, food on the table and essentials.
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Jesus, you sound like a martyr. You make it sound like you do everything yourself (kudos if you are a single parent by the way).
The things that I list are the fundamentals of parenting. Extracurricular activities etc play a part, but without the basics of food, clothing, love what good are they?
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My wife works 36 hours a week across 3 days in a senior manager position in the NHS, so for 3 days, I essentially am for those 3 days but I'm not complaining. I am saying that your comment regarding parenting not being difficult is pompous and ridiculous.
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Looks like you are complaining to me.
I also have a wife that works shifts for the NHS, and I too have taken care of three children in her absence. I get on with it and don’t find it hard to do.
Jesus, there are so many things harder in life. I stand by my comment that a lot if it is hyperbole about how hard it is. It’s called life and I’m loving (almost) every minute of it.
If you knew me as a poster (which I don’t expect you to, seeing as this is the first time I remember us conversing) pompous I am not.
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How is that complaining ffs? And I love this whole "if other people have it worse then you can't complain" mentality.
And you're loving life? Cool. Nobody asked nor cares and it has zero impact on the discussion of whether parenting is easy. If you're finding it easy. You've definitely not done it right imo.
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Regarding other people having worse than you so you can’t complain statement, nothing I have said has in any way alluded to that. Jesus, I complain daily about the most pointless things. It’s human nature.
And I stand by my thought that if you find it hard, you have not got the basics right, or you have not got a good routine going.
Maybe you have put too much emphasis on you career in your early life. A mistake (again, just my opinion) that many parents make. Understandable, because people want to provide for their children. Maybe you just haven’t got the balance right. Not a criticism by the way.
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But you're not pompous?
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I’d like to think not. I certainly don’t mean to come over that way.
I’m just offering my opinion, and you disagree with it.
No big deal. I stand by my opinion though, and my career solidifies my beliefs.
I suppose we can leave it there, unless you want to argue for arguments sake?
posted on 8/10/21
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Facking he'll, its a saint-off
posted on 8/10/21
comment by The Post Nearly Man. Ex Lion Tamer. (U1270)
posted 27 seconds ago
Facking he'll, its a saint-off
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posted on 8/10/21
Same for me OP, first on the way , got the news a fortnight ago. I had suggested the idea of trying a few months ago but she seemed less keen with her work. She secretely came off the pill and surprised me with the news. Slightly annoyed but delighted at the same time
May arrival if all goes to plan. Nervous but excited! Just going to make the most of the next few months before my freetime disappears forever.
posted on 8/10/21
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I saw the "etc" but seeing as the homework part was such a poor example of your parenting skills, I assumed that the etc was even worse than that.
And you act like enjoying it and finding it hard work cannot go together. Which again is really weird. I find getting up at 5:30, having 3 school drop offs at 3 different schools before 8:20, being home for meetings from 9 pretty much solidly until school pick up time at 3, 3:10, 3:20, back for more work until 5, cooking dinner and then working with them on homework, bathing and bedtime at 7-8:30 (and that's on days without football and cricket training for the oldest) for the 3 of them pretty hard work at times. It's really weird that you'd try to dismiss that and boil it down to clichés like love, food on the table and essentials.
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Jesus, you sound like a martyr. You make it sound like you do everything yourself (kudos if you are a single parent by the way).
The things that I list are the fundamentals of parenting. Extracurricular activities etc play a part, but without the basics of food, clothing, love what good are they?
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My wife works 36 hours a week across 3 days in a senior manager position in the NHS, so for 3 days, I essentially am for those 3 days but I'm not complaining. I am saying that your comment regarding parenting not being difficult is pompous and ridiculous.
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Looks like you are complaining to me.
I also have a wife that works shifts for the NHS, and I too have taken care of three children in her absence. I get on with it and don’t find it hard to do.
Jesus, there are so many things harder in life. I stand by my comment that a lot if it is hyperbole about how hard it is. It’s called life and I’m loving (almost) every minute of it.
If you knew me as a poster (which I don’t expect you to, seeing as this is the first time I remember us conversing) pompous I am not.
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How is that complaining ffs? And I love this whole "if other people have it worse then you can't complain" mentality.
And you're loving life? Cool. Nobody asked nor cares and it has zero impact on the discussion of whether parenting is easy. If you're finding it easy. You've definitely not done it right imo.
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Regarding other people having worse than you so you can’t complain statement, nothing I have said has in any way alluded to that. Jesus, I complain daily about the most pointless things. It’s human nature.
And I stand by my thought that if you find it hard, you have not got the basics right, or you have not got a good routine going.
Maybe you have put too much emphasis on you career in your early life. A mistake (again, just my opinion) that many parents make. Understandable, because people want to provide for their children. Maybe you just haven’t got the balance right. Not a criticism by the way.
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But you're not pompous?
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I’d like to think not. I certainly don’t mean to come over that way.
I’m just offering my opinion, and you disagree with it.
No big deal. I stand by my opinion though, and my career solidifies my beliefs.
I suppose we can leave it there, unless you want to argue for arguments sake?
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Absolutely not. I come away from here staggered but it is what it is.
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Staggered by my belief? Ok. See you on the next debate if we cross paths again.
posted on 8/10/21
comment by Neo (U9135)
posted 1 second ago
Same for me OP, first on the way , got the news a fortnight ago. I had suggested the idea of trying a few months ago but she seemed less keen with her work. She secretely came off the pill and surprised me with the news. Slightly annoyed but delighted at the same time
May arrival if all goes to plan. Nervous but excited! Just going to make the most of the next few months before my freetime disappears forever.
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Will you be changing your name to suit? Natal?
posted on 8/10/21
comment by Ole-dirty-baztard - You want ole in, ole out, ... (U19119)
posted 6 minutes ago
comment by Neo (U9135)
posted 1 second ago
Same for me OP, first on the way , got the news a fortnight ago. I had suggested the idea of trying a few months ago but she seemed less keen with her work. She secretely came off the pill and surprised me with the news. Slightly annoyed but delighted at the same time
May arrival if all goes to plan. Nervous but excited! Just going to make the most of the next few months before my freetime disappears forever.
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Will you be changing your name to suit? Natal?
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not bad
posted on 8/10/21
Congrats neo.
posted on 8/10/21
👍 cheers pal
posted on 8/10/21
Can I just ask that any of you fathers out there just stop posting 'real dads blah blah blah' crap on facebook for years after being ditched by the missus?
Ta in advance
posted on 8/10/21
No surprise teachers wanting parents to take an interest in homework.
So the cants have an easier life and can spend more time planning their next strike.
posted on 8/10/21
comment by Silver (U6112)
posted 3 minutes ago
No surprise teachers wanting parents to take an interest in homework.
So the cants have an easier life and can spend more time planning their next strike.
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You think teachers strike often then? You know the reasons why they strike?
You think teachers shouldn’t give homework (it actually means more work for teachers)?
You sound like an ill informed idiot.
posted on 8/10/21
comment by babyen ansikt snikmorder (U9094)
posted 1 minute ago
comment by Silver (U6112)
posted 3 minutes ago
No surprise teachers wanting parents to take an interest in homework.
So the cants have an easier life and can spend more time planning their next strike.
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You think teachers strike often then? You know the reasons why they strike?
You think teachers shouldn’t give homework (it actually means more work for teachers)?
You sound like an ill informed idiot.
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Still bitter about not having a real job too,
posted on 8/10/21
comment by Silver (U6112)
posted 5 minutes ago
comment by babyen ansikt snikmorder (U9094)
posted 1 minute ago
comment by Silver (U6112)
posted 3 minutes ago
No surprise teachers wanting parents to take an interest in homework.
So the cants have an easier life and can spend more time planning their next strike.
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You think teachers strike often then? You know the reasons why they strike?
You think teachers shouldn’t give homework (it actually means more work for teachers)?
You sound like an ill informed idiot.
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Still bitter about not having a real job too,
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Teaching is not a real job? Ok then.
Oh, and I’m not a teacher by the way. I said I worked in education.
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