because she didn't reply straight away to a message asking if she wanted to go to the beach. i hurt her. deliberately. that sweet girl who i had an overwhelming desire to protect and take care of. whose body i wanted to cover with my softest most tender kisses, and whose hands and arms i waited to stroke so delicately that i would hardly be touching them at all. i ruined her holiday because she chose to go to the viewpoint with her brother when she could have been with me, walking on the beach under the cloudy sky, feeling the wind on our faces and listening to the roar of the ocean.

comment by FFS Dim Sum Slunk. Really man. FFS. (U22695)
posted 19 minutes ago
I did hurt her.
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Huge d11ck mate don't take it personally

comment by Phenom (U20037)
posted 3 minutes ago
comment by FFS Dim Sum Slunk. Really man. FFS. (U22695)
posted 19 minutes ago
I did hurt her.
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Huge d11ck mate don't take it personally
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no you're right. i'm sorry.

I meant more having someone that you yourself have to be accountable to, in terms of your journey of self improvement

comment by TBag (U11806)
posted 10 minutes ago
I meant more having someone that you yourself have to be accountable to, in terms of your journey of self improvement
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ok

Just think when we set goals that's important for everyone, but it looks different for different people.

With something like the gym you can just improve the numbers weekly, but with mental health it's a lot harder to quantify.

comment by TBag (U11806)
posted 4 minutes ago
Just think when we set goals that's important for everyone, but it looks different for different people.

With something like the gym you can just improve the numbers weekly, but with mental health it's a lot harder to quantify.
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Are we going to conclude then that even if there might theoretically be a chance of....possibly rebuilding with the girl, it would be a fruitless exercise anyway because even if she did decide to give me another chance, my mental health simply isn't in good enough shape for me to be able to be what she needs?

just on that, I would point out that my mental health was fine when I met her, and off the chart good immediately after I met her. And that was only............5? days ago.

Tbag?

I mean, if it can flip like that in 5 days then just how fine is it? But yeah without knowing the full situation I'd say it's always solid advice to work on yourself so that you're in a healthy position when they right person comes along, rather than trying to turn any person into the right one.

comment by TBag (U11806)
posted 1 minute ago
I mean, if it can flip like that in 5 days then just how fine is it? But yeah without knowing the full situation I'd say it's always solid advice to work on yourself so that you're in a healthy position when they right person comes along, rather than trying to turn any person into the right one.
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I wasn't trying to turn any person into the right person. I found - completely by accident, as I was on a late night mission to try to find a girlie bar I'd seen in a youtube video - a match.

I think Phenom was asking after you btw.

I think I can try to slowly build a friendship if she reciprocates, starting with sending her say 6 photos I took when I was in her country Philippines and which we talked about, in say 2 days time (she flew back to France today). With no comment, just leave for her to reply if she wants.

comment by Phenom (U20037)
posted 8 minutes ago
Tbag?
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Hey Phenom, sorry lost you in the text there, sorry

My nephew (who tbf I haven't talked to in a year) has got through to the final round of selection for the royal marines comando officer course apparently. Could be b*ll*cks but I heard that only 30 people got through.

Pretty pleased to have found these:

https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=177917378020578&set=a.177917551353894

Hi. So sorry for my childish behaviour. I hope that meeting me didn't spoil your holiday in Phuket too much and that you had a good time with your family and friends. Have sent a couple of photos below from when I was in PPines if you like them. Genuinely so sorry again OK.

Sent: tomorrow

&

Bet this kid did well

https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=177942918018024&set=a.110234578122192

and made some really beautiful babies with someone too

J, I reckon you have abandonment issues.

wait one more day. wait.

wwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt

wait

i think if i've waited 3 days she'll be impressed.