comment by Bãleș left boot (U22081)
posted 16 minutes ago
I think for having to play CB and LB Gray was excellent. The way he copes under pressure, he should be a number 6 IMO
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that must be the view for the future

comment by Edinspur (U1109)
posted 13 minutes ago
I would start Werner, 2 senior games in a few days for Moore would be pretty mad imo.

Similarly I think Werner does a lot of things that benefit the team - just not when he is on the ball
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Suppose a bit like BJ was, gets in the right positions but his end product has been letting him down.

Hopefully that can change.

I'd be excited to see Moore start against Brighton but I don't think he should. If he doesn't cope and gets pulled at half time it could be really damaging. Hopefully Son is back

can you not train drilling bit more instinct into Werner

I think Werner is who he is, its mental and unless he gets a lobotomy you cant change that

Looking at Palmer maybe a lobotomy would actually do it

you not seen Werner in interviews? hes not fair off Palmer as it is

Oh I kinda assumed he'd not be an idiot

comment by Edinspur (U1109)
posted 1 hour, 17 minutes ago
I would start Werner, 2 senior games in a few days for Moore would be pretty mad imo.

Similarly I think Werner does a lot of things that benefit the team - just not when he is on the ball
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I agree with this ….he helps stretch the play as he holds his position out wide well and gives the full back something to think about (even if that thought is ‘you’re crap&rsquo

Or could be he just doesn’t want to get in the game and fluff anything else up !

tbf Werner could've had an assist yesterday, he put in a great ball that Solanke probably woulda finished

Am I right to hold my parents and particularly my dad significantly responsible for my situation, and to have a grudge against him for never having offered to try to help me in any way including in the several years I've slept on his floor or sofa often in very deep depression as my life has past me by, or is my family right to laugh at me and regard me as a joke for thinking this and trying to apportion blame to my dad?

comment by Blackpolespur (U9242)
posted 4 minutes ago
comment by Edinspur (U1109)
posted 1 hour, 17 minutes ago
I would start Werner, 2 senior games in a few days for Moore would be pretty mad imo.

Similarly I think Werner does a lot of things that benefit the team - just not when he is on the ball
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I agree with this ….he helps stretch the play as he holds his position out wide well and gives the full back something to think about (even if that thought is ‘you’re crap&rsquo

Or could be he just doesn’t want to get in the game and fluff anything else up !
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*no idea wtf that is after ‘you’re crap’

comment by Optional Screen Name (U23088)
posted 3 minutes ago
Am I right to hold my parents and particularly my dad significantly responsible for my situation, and to have a grudge against him for never having offered to try to help me in any way including in the several years I've slept on his floor or sofa often in very deep depression as my life has past me by, or is my family right to laugh at me and regard me as a joke for thinking this and trying to apportion blame to my dad?
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Sounds like you had some help…..he let you sleep on his sofa and floor

if you do an apostrophe and then closed bracket it does that for some reason

Bad coding from admin

you're crap'

comment by Blackpolespur (U9242)
posted 4 minutes ago
comment by Optional Screen Name (U23088)
posted 3 minutes ago
Am I right to hold my parents and particularly my dad significantly responsible for my situation, and to have a grudge against him for never having offered to try to help me in any way including in the several years I've slept on his floor or sofa often in very deep depression as my life has past me by, or is my family right to laugh at me and regard me as a joke for thinking this and trying to apportion blame to my dad?
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Sounds like you had some help…..he let you sleep on his sofa and floor
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is that as far as most parents would go in terms of addressing their son's life being a disaster?

bear in mind as well that his previous input has had identifiable major negative impacts on my career, which he is aware of but just reacts "oh well" or similar and changes the subject, and says he's got everything he wants in life.

yet my family laugh/scoff at me for blaming him.
my mum's told me the whole family laughs at me and thinks I'm a joke, and that isn't a surprise at all based on what interaction I have.
he plays up to the role of the unfortunate guy with the useless son who tries to blame him and who everyone knows is a joke, but I'm convinced that it's just this small group that think that and that if others who didn't have anything to gain one way or another were to judge the situation they would think I'm right that he's let me down.
it's actually quite a significant part of my depression that they take this approach rather than accepting some of the responsibility (or actually doing something to try to help).

No to Werner.

Not trying to pile on but I would suggest you talk to a doc maybe and see if you can get a referral

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-disorder-blaming-others/

Although edin is right. Same team as v united.

Quite happy now son had this injury. Going to miss international duty too so getting best part of a month off which he needs

comment by Bãleș left boot (U22081)
posted 31 seconds ago
Not trying to pile on but I would suggest you talk to a doc maybe and see if you can get a referral

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-disorder-blaming-others/
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that's about "blaming others for their bipolar disorder"

I'm not talking about blaming him for my depression.

Well I suppose I am, in part.

But there are concrete reasons why. It's not like I've just picked some random person and said it's your fault.

At times, people with bipolar might turn to blaming others for their difficulties to avoid their own bad feelings of anxiety, sadness, anger, or shame, particularly if they haven’t yet learned healthier coping skills.
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Obligatory not a doctor but I have known people dealing with this before and you do show a lot of the signs. For sure nothing is going to get fixed unless you want it to. So I'll leave it there

comment by Optional Screen Name (U23088)
posted 3 minutes ago
comment by Bãleș left boot (U22081)
posted 31 seconds ago
Not trying to pile on but I would suggest you talk to a doc maybe and see if you can get a referral

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-disorder-blaming-others/
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that's about "blaming others for their bipolar disorder"

I'm not talking about blaming him for my depression.

Well I suppose I am, in part.

But there are concrete reasons why. It's not like I've just picked some random person and said it's your fault.
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You could self medicate like the rest of us 😂

Let's say I did have bipolar disorder then.

If I did it, it wouldn't be at the top of my list of problems.

But if you're right and I do have that, then would a parent who was living with their offspring who had bipolar disorder (even when the offspring was an adult), offer to do something to help or at least show some kind of compassion about it beyond saying, "depressed??? what have YOU got to be depressed about?", and continue to behave in a way which causes said adult further depression?

I mean, I'm not even primarily talking about his lack of action directly in regards my depression, but just on that point alone, would that behaviour not be abnormal towards a close (literally and figuratively) relative who was in that situation?

comment by Bãleș left boot (U22081)
posted 3 minutes ago
At times, people with bipolar might turn to blaming others for their difficulties to avoid their own bad feelings of anxiety, sadness, anger, or shame, particularly if they haven’t yet learned healthier coping skills.
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Obligatory not a doctor but I have known people dealing with this before and you do show a lot of the signs. For sure nothing is going to get fixed unless you want it to. So I'll leave it there
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I don't want things to be fixed?